It Might Get Worse, Before It Gets Better

“I have lived with several Zen masters -- all of them cats.”  Eckhart Tolle

“I have lived with several Zen masters — all of them cats.”
Eckhart Tolle

Your higher mind is split between listening to your ego and your divine self, and is always choosing which side to listen to. When your ego realizes you are no longer listening to it, it will use attack methods to gain your attention. Your ego may induce fear, old grievances, anger, anxiety, random thoughts, etc., switching from one to another in an effort to force you to pay attention to its concerns instead of your divine self’s guidance.

Because of the ego’s attacks, you may remember old events or feel deep-seated, negative emotions. You may become fearful or angry when these emotions/memories/thoughts arise, but, keep in mind, this is an opportunity for healing (although it might not feel like it). Each unwanted emotion or thought that comes to your attention is an opportunity to release it through forgiveness. With each release, the veil becomes thinner and your connection to the Spirit becomes stronger. For more on releasing unwanted thoughts and emotions, read Meditation Techniques.

As your healing progresses in a seemingly worse manner:

  • Realize that the ego’s negative thoughts are not true
  • Train your mind to listen to your divine self instead of the ego
  • Quiet your mind and feel peaceful
  • Reduce fear, anger, anxiety and other unwanted emotions through recognition and release (forgiveness)
  • Let the love of the Divine flow through you (meditation or prayer can be helpful). This will energize and restore your mind and body

Freedom of the Mind

When we use the spiritual to accommodate the physical, we have lost our correct perspective. The physical should be the tool for finding our spiritual selves.

Freedom is often a goal we want. We desire freedom from financial concerns and pain, such as anger, anxiety, depression, etc. We believe that once the body’s concerns are taken care of, we will feel free. But those who have achieved fame, fortune and health, realized that this is not true. It’s in the mind where happiness, joy, love and true freedom is found. The mind is not your brain, but rather a spiritual conciousness which is the gateway to your true self.

Finding freedom for the mind will eventually lead you on a spiritual journey towards love and a strong connection between the Creator and all of humanity — and away from fear, pain and loneliness.

Freedom is achieved by:

  • Connecting to our Creator, through methods such as prayer, meditation, shamanic journeying, yoga, etc.
  • Forgiving others and ourselves
  • Understanding that this life is a temporary awareness and a complete distortion of our true spiritual selves
  • Learning that we are loved completely by our Creator and are able to share that love
  • Knowing that we have the power of our Creator, since we are created in his image. We are not weak and held hostage by this world.
  • Learning to follow the Spirit’s guidance on a daily basis. We can begin to make the correct decisions for our lives when we follow the Spirit’s lead, instead of following our own perspective which is often incorrect and limited.

Freedom is found by following the Spirit’s guidance, but we often believe this means we will lose our worldly possessions. The Spirit is not concerned about taking away something from you — whether you are rich or poor is not important. The Spirit only uses physical means as a tool to help you find freedom.

We are eternal spirits, so our concerns about this temporary physical realm are misguided. The Spirit will make sure that you have what you need. It only asks that you allow It to lead the way. When you no longer worry about having your needs met, you can be free at last!

Blessed journeys!

Three Life-changing Meditation Techniques

Below are three meditation techniques I frequently recommend to people. These meditations are useful for strengthening your connection to the Divine Energy (this has many names: Holy Spirit, Great Spirit, God, Allah, Goddess, etc.), removing unwanted thoughts, and releasing fears, stress, anxiety, depression and many other unloving emotions.

1. Connecting to the Divine Energy Meditation

To begin, sit quietly and let your mind go blank.

Breathe deeply while envisioning the Divine Energy entering your crown chakra (top of your head), letting your breath carry the Divine Energy through your body all the way to your feet.

Next, release your breath, envisioning the energy circling up around your body until it rises out of the top of your head. Repeat this process as many times as you feel it’s needed. I recommend 15 minutes or more daily, but even a few minutes can be beneficial.

The results will differ from person to person, and even from session to session. You may experience bliss, or at the very least, your mind will be calm and you’ll forget about life’s stresses for a little while.

My ultimate goal when doing this meditation is to connect to the Divine Energy because of its healing powers. It is possible to connect to the Divine Energy the first time you try this meditation, but it usually takes days or months, so don’t give up too soon. Each time you try, you are making progress, and eventually you’ll feel the Divine Energy.


2. Releasing Day-to-Day Negative Emotions Meditation

The first time I tried this technique was when my family moved to North Carolina. My husband and I were both looking for jobs, but it was just before the holidays and during the 2008 recession, so we weren’t getting any interviews. One day, after the stress of moving to a new state with no income became overwhelming, I was about to have my first anxiety attack. Before the feeling became overwhelming, I decided to give this burden to Divine Energy by saying, “I give this to you. Please take it and heal it. Thank you.” I felt a warmth enter my body, which caused the fear to leave within a few seconds. It was a huge relief to have the anxiety leave so quickly without escalating into a full-blown panic attack. I also like that this technique can be used anywhere, in the car, in the store, in a meeting, etc. without anyone knowing that you are doing it.

It can be used for all of your unwanted emotions, even the smaller ones, such as irritation and impatience, as they occur. This has made a tremendous difference in the quality of my life.


3. Releasing the Past Meditation

This meditation has been life-changing for me. The goal of this practice is to release the trauma, pain, anger and discomfort from past events, such as being bullied, problems with your parents, unfairly losing your job, breaking up with a love interest or friend, etc. The first time I used this technique was after a real estate offer fell through. It was the perfect house for us and the only one within our price range. After having our offer outbid, it felt like nothing was going right, especially since I had been unemployed for nearly two years. I had never had a problem finding a job before in my life. At my core, I knew my inability to forgive my past was limiting me from accepting the universal abundance in my present day.

To heal my past, I spent an entire morning releasing everything that entered my mind — from my parent’s bankruptcy when I was a child during the 1970s recession (a hungry, cold and dark period) to being bullied in middle school, as well as many other events that I had long forgotten about. Then I moved onto more recent events, such as failing to keep my graphic design business afloat and having to declare bankruptcy due to the financial meltdown of 2008. (It was a lesson in forgiving others and myself.) After I finished the meditation, I felt peaceful, but I wasn’t sure what would come of it.

Well, my life dramatically changed within a few days. The low-ball offer my husband and I had placed on the house, (the one that had been outbid), was now unexpectedly accepted. The next day, I was called to interview for a good-paying position as a creative marketing manager. What made this call so odd was I didn’t apply for the job. The employer had found me online (and I got the job).  My daughter commented at dinner, “It’s like the universe is punking us.” Yes, but in a good way.

It was an amazing transformation that resulted from me asking for healing and being willing to release and forgive my past. With the removal of each blockage, I had more room to accept the abundance, happiness and health the universe had to offer.

To practice this technique, find a comfortable place, such as your bed, and set the intention that anything that needs to be healed will enter your mind, then let your mind go blank and wait for the first memory to arrive. When it does, acknowledge it, and then give it to the Divine Energy for healing by saying, “I give this to you. Please take it and heal it. Thank you.” After releasing the memory for healing, let your mind go blank again and wait for the next memory to appear. Continue doing this meditation until your thoughts trickle to a stop. The first time could potentially take hours. I recommend doing this weekly in the beginning, and then as needed after that.


NOTE: Some people have expressed a concern that they felt worse during or after meditation, so I wrote another post , It Might Get Worse, Before It Gets Better, which helps explains this.